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Dear IVy

Two people are mutually attracted and want to advance their ‘relationship.’ One of the people has a significant other. What should they do?

            Patrick

Dear Patrick,

The person with the significant other should be honest with him/her and say that they wish to see other people. Sneaking around is a bad idea. The sneaking party almost always gets caught, and it is humiliating to the person who has been betrayed.

        IVy

Dear IVy,

I overheard a group of teachers gossiping about another student. How ethical is this and should I report them?

            Chrissy

Dear Chrissy,

You should go to one (or more) of the teachers and express your concern. If you feel that you need additional advisement, go to their Departmental Chair(s). No, it isn’t ethical for an instructor to gossip about (or make fun of ) students. Instructors are human and are as prone to foolish behavior as the rest of us. Unfortunately, a higher education does not always guarantee kindness or good sense.

            IVy

Dear IVy,

I am going to Cozumel for spring break and my boyfriend would like me to shave my entire bikini area. I have never done this before and I am afraid that I’ll cut something off. What should I do?

            Yolanda

Dear Yolanda,

Turn what could be a messy chore into something memorable. Light some candles and have your boyfriend play ‘the barber’ and lather you up.

            IVy

Dear IVy,

I have been feeling very lethargic, lately. I have no motivation to study. All I want to do is veg out. I hate feeling like this, I know that my future depends on what I do now. Do you have any advice for me?

            Elisabeth

Dear Elisabeth,

You have to include regular breaks in your study schedule to avoid burnout. Don’t take so many credit hours that you have no free time. You have to have a life beyond the campus. Make sure that you have a check-up to see if there are any physical reasons for your lethargy. Take a multi-vitamin with iron, eat properly, and get enough sleep.

            IVy

Dear IVy,

I have a friend who is interested in someone but is not sure that the feelings are mutual. What should they do?

            Manny

Dear Manny,

If the person is unattached, they should casually ask the person ‘out for coffee,’ or invite that person out as part of a group. (Whatever happens, happens...).

            IVy

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